The Pussification of the West

While there is debate as to whether or not our modern society is “better” than those in the past, there’s little debate that our society is weaker. Our weakness shows in our entitled view of how the world works with us at its center. It’s seen in our seeming inability to recognize that evil exists and that it must be met and defeated, not coddled to or ignored. It’s in our priorities, in our vanity, in our loss of the values. Maybe more than anywhere, the pussification of the west is seen in our insanely sensitive society where even our humor is under a microscope.

This weakness exists, in part, because it’s allowed to exist.

Through the wonder that is innovation we don’t have to walk anywhere if we don’t want to. We can hop on a plane and travel the world where we once had to brave the tumultuous waters of our world’s oceans. We don’t have to have face-to-face interaction, we can call or email or Facebook. Our social world can essentially exist within the illusion that is the medias.

We don’t have to kill our own meat. There’s no need to even work for a living in some instances – be it due to poverty and government sustenance or inherited wealth.

There is no necessity for physical toughness or strength – at least as it pertains to survival. The fat guy and the weak guy can thrive as our society sees it just as successfully as the strong guy or the tough guy, and often times even more-so.

Our society isn’t set up so that the strong survive. Sure, it’s those capable and the hard-working and those who go above and beyond that still succeed, but it’s the lowest who are often heard and catered to.

The difference between our modern society and those of the past, even the ancients, is that while comfort has always existed, it hasn’t been sought nor praised nor aspired for as much as it is today.

Being allowed to exist, though, isn’t the only reason why we’re pussies incapable of surviving as we once did, with the elements as our foe and our spirit and ingenuity as our ally. We are weak because we practice weakness.

Practicing Weakness

I woke up at 5:00am this morning. My alarm was set for 3:15am, alas, I opened my dog’s kennel, he popped up onto my bed and we snuggled for a couple of hours before I realized that I’d missed my alarm and had to get my day started, pronto.

From there I walked to my office (which is inside my house), sat down with a cup of coffee, and began to work. An hour later the young fella woke up and I walked him for an hour out in the fields close to my home.

The rest of the day will be spent on my ass in front of a screen. Sure, I’ll go to the gym and feel some pain, I’ll walk the pup again, but I am training to be a pussy.

My battles are won and lost not in any physical realm – as they rarely are – nor against any physical pain. They’re won against the Resistance that aims to keep me away from my work, my calling, my purpose. These battles are real. You likely fight similar ones.

They’re fought along the lines of questions, “should I take a break?”, “am I done?”, “do I really need to get to the gym?”. While the battles are real and winning them will make us tougher, these battles aren’t enough. If this is all we – all I – face in a day as far as a struggle, there is very little strengthening of the spirit because our greatest fear is never really faced: death.

Just because the distraction is there or the ease is available doesn’t mean that it should be our choice or our habit.

We Need More Pain and Less Comfort

I’ve recently opened up the pages of The Warrior Ethos, Steven Pressfield’s wonderful outline of the ethos that warriors since time immemorial have prescribed to. From the Spartans to the Israelis, the Macedonians to the Romans, strong, brave men, warriors, have always had a few things in common and ease is not one of them. Not, however, because it wasn’t a possibility, but because ease is something that the greatest among us, and the greatest societies of our history, have detested.

I’m also reading Rome’s Last Citizen, a book about Cato, mortal enemy of Caesar and hero of many of the founders of America. Ancient Romans had the ability to live lives of ease. They had all the riches and opulence that we have today with a bit less control over the elements and a closer proximity to their enemies.

Today we protect our boys from everything. We freak out if they wander off, if they rough house, if they get into trouble or break a few bones. We train our young men to be pussies, to fear everything and to be able to withstand nothing. Romans, though they may have been rich, saw more value in teaching toughness even if you lost a few along the way. They exposed their youths to the elements, adorned them in simple robes as the Spartans did, and made them often fend for themselves.

During Alexander’s time he and his pals would bathe in frigid waters, train for hours on end, ride all day with no breaks, and just as they were about to get rest at the end of the day their teachers would tell them, “As you lie here at ease, the sons of Persia train to defeat you in battle.”

The Honorable Enemy

What the Spartans and the Macedonians and the Romans trained for was battle. It was such a large part of their culture and survival that it was bred into them to be warriors from a young age. Spartan boys left their mothers at the age of 7 to enter their training.

Our enemy, today, is both internal and external, but it isn’t honorable.

In Samurai Bushido culture, sneaking up on the enemy from behind wasn’t allowed. You had to face the enemy from the front, like a man.

In ancient cultures, innovation on the battlefield was met with sadness because it was seen as the end of honor, today we have little honor as we send drones to do the killing that men should be doing, or they send women, strapped with a bomb, into a crowded market to kill civilians.

It was custom that the leader of an army would put himself within killing range of his enemy so that he could kill. That’s what you have with the sword or the spear and even the arrow, you have to be within your enemy’s killing range to take his life.

What they would think of a woman having a bomb strapped to her chest and walking into a public place to kill civilians isn’t something that they’d likely be able to comprehend. Their cultures were far more brutal, punishment for crimes was often final. But the battle was a place where honor existed even if it was your most hated enemy.

Our lack of honor exists not only with our enemy, but within our society.

We have become vain, where status is dictated by what you own, not the courage you possess or the valor you’ve displayed.

It Is Better to Live in Hardship

It is better to live in a rugged land and rule than to live in a rich land and be a slave. ~ Cyrus the Great

I have an easy life. This is a problem that I’m seeing in my own life and I’m seeing it show itself in ways that have already been talked about.

My discipline is softening, my values are being wavered upon, reasoned with. What helped me improve as a man is slowly dissipating, which is why I’m training not only to bring it back, them back, but to become something better. And it’s not a “better” that will be shown in acts that the public can see, nor in fame or popularity or even wealth or financial success.

Better can be something that only I am aware of, along with those closest to me and my Maker. It’s something devoid of the motivations that grasp so many of our actions and decisions: show and tell. We buy shit we don’t need to impress people we shouldn’t be trying to impress. And we’re miserable because of it.

It’s this desire to improve, to become better, to become tougher, that is fueling a more grueling life. It is, it seems, better to live on your own land, to hunt your own game, to harvest your own crops and feel nature’s wrath than it is to live in man’s attempt at controlling his environment, the city.

5 years ago I wanted to live in the heart of the city. Everything’s there for you. People. Entertainment. Babes. My desires are now moving outward, beyond the attempt at a Utopia where we can easily grow ignorant of the harsh reality of life. Sure, crime is greater in a city, but vanity rules. Danger still exists, but fear is rare, especially the fear that comes from physical harm, from the elements.

We need the frigid waters, the physical battles as well as the battles we face to create. The artists battles are no less important than the warriors, but men are both artist and warrior, we need the physicality to perfect the mental.

We need to feel pain early and often to acquire the grit that will make us better men.

This cannot be all of our reality, however. We need to end the pussification from the country to the city and it starts with the individual because, as we’ve seen politically, in the media, and among the celebrity class, the pussification is a part of their agenda whether they know it or not. Where many are weak, the few will flourish. Where the many are free and strong, many more will flourish because of them.

We’ve become a culture that is ignorant of evil yet sensitive of even the most minute slight. A man so sensitive that he cannot take a joke cannot call himself a man.

Soft Hands Make Soft People

You’re likely not the weakness that has been described thus far. You, like I, most likely crave the ruggedness of times past. You want more in your life because you see the value of it. This article wasn’t written to lambaste, but simply to awaken.

You can become tougher, as can I, and though society may be headed in the other direction, there are small and seemingly insignificant ways in which we can once again rise.

1. Don’t coddle your kid.

Give them freedom. Let them make mistakes, painful mistakes. Give them more responsibility than they can handle and let them sink or swim.

2. Don’t coddle yourself.

Don’t ever feel sorry for yourself or think that ease is earned. Rewards are good, enjoy them, but ease is evil. Train your body and your spirit for war even though a literal battle you may never fight. There are wars being fought daily, and your improvement as a man is vital to you coming out victorious.

3. Toughen up.

Do the things you don’t want to do, and do them well.

Take it upon yourself to use your hands more often. And not just in the gym. Develop calluses that come from manual labor. Enter the wilderness and learn to survive. Push your body daily. Take no days off from at least doing something difficult.

4. Take pride but lose the vanity.

Take pride in how you carry yourself and in how you dress. But don’t be vain. Vanity removes the capacity for toughness. Vanity is being a pussy, it’s not wanting to get down and dirty because you’re too worried about how you look.

This stems to every area of life.

Don’t be afraid to look like a fool. Dance like an idiot. Get your hands dirty. Fight. Be a barbarian first, then be a gentleman.

It means nothing for a pussy to be gentle, it requires no discipline. But for a barbarian to quell and temper his aggression, that’s impressive and worthy of praise.

5. Have a routine and rules.

Without rules there is no freedom from the laziness, the sloth, the unproductive human that you can “naturally” become.

Rules and routine free you up to be the man you’re capable of becoming, but more than that, they allow you to experience life and the adventure that it can be when you buck the priorities of a society that only consumes.

6. Serve.

Selflessness is the quality most prized in a warrior. Medals of valor aren’t given to the nutcase who kills a bunch of bad guys and calls himself a hero, they’re given to the man who has no regard for his own life and puts it on the line for his comrade – and kills a bunch of bad guys while he’s at it.

Serve always. Give, not just money but time, spirit, and body. Labor for others, for your Maker, for whatever you want to labor for, just give your time and energy to something other than the facade you’re trying to create.

7. Take the hard road.

Take cold showers. Take the stairs rather than the elevator. Walk instead of cabbing. Join a boxing gym. Start a HARD weight routine (like this one). See how the masses are being weakened and fight the urge to go along with them. Break the mold, the monotony of accepted weakness and end the pussification of the west by toughening up on your terms instead of waiting for the world to force it upon you.

The Pussification of the West

Political correctness and a heightened sensitivity is how this pussification is showing itself most on a daily basis. Rather than bringing people together it just broadens the divide.

And it’s starting young.

We reward and award kids not for having won anything, but simply for participating. We’re telling certain colors to feel entitled and others to feel ashamed. The West, namely America, was the first free and democratic society of its time. It was the first without a monarchy at its figurehead. It was the first to fully welcome capitalism and thrive upon it. It was won with strength and freedom. And now it, like all other western nations, is turning its back on the values that made it great by allowing those who hate those values to uproot them and dismiss them from history.

As we’ve grown richer, we’ve grown weaker. Which makes sense. But tell Marcus Aurelius or Seneca that wealth must equal weakness. Tell that to Alexander the Great or Theodore Roosevelt. Just because it’s there doesn’t mean that it’s the road you have to take.

To avoid your own pussification take on a harder, rougher way of living. Though society may become increasingly pussified, it will, at some point, still need to find its backbone and that’s when good men will rise and the cancerous weakness that once rooted them out will come calling for help.

Reclaim that masculine aggression before you try and become a gentleman. Wild at heart is how you were made, return to that origins.

  • Mediabiasisgreat

    This is an EXCELLENT article Chad. I couldn’t have said it better myself. I appreciate the motivation your words have brought me over the last year. Keep up the good work.

    • Thanks, glad to hear I can be of service.

  • Martin

    Chad – this article is bang-on! I’m sick and tired of both my own weaknesses and those I see around me. I’m inspired to make those changes required and man the f*** up! I work in a high school and the standard of young men we are churning out disgusts me. Time to grab this by the balls and change how things are heading!

    • Well done man!

    • notyranny

      The churning out of the physically and mentally weak is by design. Look into it.

      • Today it’s by design to a certain degree I’m sure (if you’re saying what I think I am), although I think we ended up here mostly because of improvements in technology and the convenience it brought.

  • cac90277

    While the title is perfect, some of the reasons are a bit lost in my opinion. This guy could easily fold up shop where he is and go join a fighting group, like the Romans. Go bang it out with our U.S. military and fight for our country. My guess is he won’t and it pokes a huge hole in the article based on that reasoning.

    I agree that the West is being “pussified,” but it isn’t done by purchasing meat or taking a hot shower. It is much more subtitle than that. It’s how men are depicted as weak and dumb on our TV shows. It’s the way TV forces us to talk to our 6 year old kids about gender reassignment because TV shows on a major networks are about to start producing such garbage. It is the way our democracy has been more of a force tolerance for something’s we, the majority, view as immoral. We are forced to care for everybody, and told not to love our selves unconditionally, which is Altruism at its worst and the true downfall from this once great country. It’s the lies we teach in our short American History. We don’t tell the truth. We say Colombus discovered America, when the American Indians were here way before Ponce de Leon, Colombus or any of the 3 ships we learn in kindergarten. We don’t teach that we honestly took America by force for a moral reason and the fact that force is a part of life and death every day. We don’t teach the smart and tough survive. We teach the idea of forced sharing and overall care for everyone. When my kids try to act that way, I ask them if they feel like sharing their grades. I ask, when they get an “A” on a test, would they be willing to TAKE a “C” so that a few other kids that didn’t study and played X Box all night don’t get F’s, they would all get “C’s.” That Altruism or socialism crap goes right out the window. Kids have all the survival skills necessary at 5 years old. They are primitive, as they should be at 5, but it’s beautiful to see. But schools and parents,willingly or unwillingly, are killing their child’s spirit. It’s dead in most kids by 8. And parents are told their child has emotional issues if he or she stands up for himself. If he or she knocks a bully out for messing with their friend. The moral and virtuous are the enemy in this backwards look at right and wrong. Both get suspended or expelled. When infact the child did the school a favor and picked out the problem and then corrected the behavior. Pat that child on the back. Give them a medal of valor. Celebrate their spirit for fighting for right and wrong. Let the bully kids family know that their asshole kid can walk the line or that they can home school them. That’s their option for the next year. They shouldnt let them infect another school. They are done for a full year. Then they may reapply for their local school once an evaluation is done by the district psychologist. But no, we blame survival skills and both are sent off.

    Between TV and school, the two things that take up most of our kids lives until they are adults, their spirit is broken before it hardly starts.

    • Good points. Well said.

      Have gone deeper in articles like this one: http://chadhowsefitness.com/2013/03/the-emasculation-of-men

    • Boy I am with you in your comments!!! I honestly thought that people that think like you were extinct! I was already cheering inside upon reading your approach until I read your example of a the kid knocking a bully. In fact that really happened to my son when he was around 9 or 10 yrs old and after punching the crap out of a bully that had been tormenting him for near a month he himself took a stand and when to the principle’s office to report the incident. Of course he got a warning and the whole nine yard lecture, however the truth is that he bully NEVER messed with him again! Not only he was ok with his actions but his mom and myself did not condemned nether praised him for his actions and instead we just told him that it is ok to stand up for what feels right to you and that not letting yourself being abused is the first action before even reasoning what is morally “right or wrong”. To make a long story shorter my boy graduated with honors in almost every grade he attend to (including college), he became a professional soccer player and a person that everyone loves to be around due to his charisma, kindness and happiness. Not to mentioned that myself or his mom had never (“in our lives”) to tell him to do his home work which makes us to believe that what it did was his self esteem. Please notice that it is worth mentioning that we were not proud of our son’s action at the time and instead we were more worried and even wondering if from that point on the bulling wouldn’t get worse. It turned out that my boy’s instincts were right and the bulling not only stopped with him but that kid stopped bulling others. Nether one of them got spelled out of the school and a potential huge problem was resolved right there without the need of the drama we normaly see around issues like this. My boy is a 24 years old man today, not a trouble maker, not a macho shit head but instead a really sweet intelligent and bright guy that everybody loves and I am only proud to say that I too learned a great lesson from it which is sometimes our society is taken some issues to an extreme that in truth it doesn’t benefit anyone involved nether endorses the moral values that it keeps trying to impose on us.

      • cac90277

        I treasure your sons right to action and know when to make a stand. What a brave young boy (at the time). When everyone says walk away, tell an adult, he made a life altering decision to let himself know and anybody watching, I have a line and you better not cross it. Bravo!

        I think it’s when our boys hands are tied by some parents and most institutions that the “shooter” comes out. The desperate lash out. That’s what we’ve created in our schools. A small cell of children that can not function in a society that thinks it’s a utopia,, but chooses not to live in that world and get away with constant passive aggressive behavior.

        90% of bully’s are passive aggressive and can’t or don’t want to fight, they just push their way through people. When they meet hero’s, they either back down or get dealt with. Either way, the problem gets solved. The way we del with it now, in reality, is our kids are told to tell and adult (teacher play ground parent and nothing gets solved. Well, I stand corrected, the target gets bigger for the one being bullied because now the bully tells all his friends to pour it on.

        I agree, no need to be a jerk about it. There is class in taking ones individual self back. Sounds like your son made that leap. I hope mine can do the same.

    • notyranny

      We got rid of TV when my children were 6 months old, We Homeschool them. I will not turn my children over to this media created degenerate society or the social indoctrination camps called public schools. So far, so good.

      • S2121

        Good luck with that. You can’t hide from society forever…

      • notyranny

        You miss the point entirely. Too much TV for you, no doubt.

      • I will do it with my kids soon. No tv and no dumbschool.

      • notyranny

        You will notice a very positive change.

    • Great thoughts.

  • Michael S. Hilton

    Really enjoyed this article. Veracious to the core.

  • max

    I only got half way through your article, and I partially agree with you. Although when i see personal trainers fucking posts drawings comparisons between lifting weights to fucking war zones and think that they’re in a position to point the finger at others – that is ridiculous. yeh yeh i’ve got credentials similar to yours saying that i’m not soft (for our society at least), or maybe I am – it is the internet after all. But point of this post is that i’m tired of seeing fucking personal trainers even referencing war in their posts, you know when you see your buddy on facebook post a pic at the gym with some lame-ass caption of, “going to war” or some shit against an inanimate weight plate. Who knows, maybe you redeemed the blog post after the point i stopped reading it, but in the case you hadn’t – give me a break.

    • Finish reading the article. I never made that comparison, nor will I.

      It’s how we treated ourselves, our youth then vs now.

      Re-read.

  • TeaTephi

    Three thousand years ago at the end of his life, King David spoke to his son. “I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man.” Is it possible that the falling fortunes of any country can be traced to one central problem….that of far too many men who do not live by this standard to shew themselves a man? I believe so. Nice article here Chad.

    • That’s one of my favorite verses. Great point as well.

  • notyranny

    Just get yourself a good woman and found a family, THAT will make you tougher or it will beat you down. Have as many children as you can support and you CAN support more than you think. Don’t turn them over to the school system or their minds will be hijacked and they will become what you despise. God, Family and your People are what matters.

    • DanDev

      No. Kids aren’t the ultimate good. Nor is god. Go back to your middle-eastern cave.

      • notyranny

        What is then? Self indulgence? Subservience to the Almighty State?

      • DanDev

        After your two comments I see you are mentally enslaved to a imaginary being, made by primitve cavemen, who loves to oppress and enslave humanity. And any hint of free will from that fairy tale monster is something that can’t pass your thick skull.Oh lucky you. Be slave without your own opinion, if you will.

      • notyranny

        Self loathing is no way to exist. Try to find something rewarding in life other than inserting your genitalia in the dirty end of a mans large intestine.

  • Shaked Franks

    I live in Israel, and here you can live a normal life full of pleasure and comfort untill you hit 18.
    When you do, you have to enlist to the army. In the army most of us join units that require defending our homeland and so on.. now I don’t say that what we do is right, but we have to do it. So we have to train and work as if our life depends on it. We litterally have to prepare ourselves for war. So I just wanted to let you know that there is still hope for men and for the comeback of badassness haha.. By the way sorry for my bad english. cheers

  • Andra Harvey Gustin

    I get the article and its good. But really why call it Pussifcaiton? Using a slang term for the vagina as description of weakness is just plain insulting to women. Vaginas are amazing, strong,can take some hits, and birth humans- what about that is weak?? Now testicles- just barely tapping those little suckers wrong will bring a grown man to his knees. OR is this just saying that being a woman is weak in general?? I really hope you don’t feel this way, I hope it was just a poor choice of wording that many think is clever. Like I said. I get the point of the article, and it was well written. Just not a fan of the title.

    • To be honest, I don’t think vagina when I hear the word pussy. I think wuss, sissy…

      Never even gave it a second thought. I guess it just has to do with how you associate the word.

      • Andra Harvey Gustin

        Well, that is great that you don’t think of it that way. And I meant no disrespect by my comment. Its just something to think about. Luckily for you, lots of misogynist ass hats read your article, so I might be the only one who had a problem with the wording.

    • Bryan Garabrandt

      The fact that you were able to find a way to be offended by this speaks volumes to the point of the article. Part of our society’s weakness is all this hyper sensitivity and obsession with everything being politically correct. People are just coming at the bit for their next opportunity to call something racist or sexist or prejudice or offensive. No matter what anyone does some hyper sensitive opportunist will find a way to be offended and make it about them…

    • Jordan Frey

      It’s because pussy are soft, little, pink meat flowers (who get fucked by the way). So when you call a man a pussy, you are basically calling him a soft flower, which is the exact opposite of what a man wants to be.

      • Andra Harvey Gustin

        I know what the term “pussy” means. I like to think they are a lot more than “soft, little, pink meat flowers.” but what do I know, right?

    • Phillip Forster

      The fact that your worried about a terminology used in this well meant article is one of America’s biggest problems. No reasonable, rational person even put a connection to a woman’s vagina together when reading this. Grow up.

      • Andra Harvey Gustin

        I am grown, thanks. And just b/c you don’t value my opinion or my input doesn’t make it any less important, reasonable, or rational. But thanks for taking the time out for day to obviously caring enough to comment.

    • Sonorense

      So… about that over sensitivity to political correctness. ..

    • S2121

      Aaaannnd…. You’re part of the fucking problem

  • A-effing-men. PS, from Sailer’s latest post: “A culture of male self-admiration tended to elicit high male achievement. (In contrast, in today’s culture of male denigration, males tend to live down to society’s expectations.)”

  • Billy Fett

    Not to make light of this article, but “but I am training to be a pussy.” had me in stitches!

  • JONESY

    Great read brother I love what you are saying and I’ve been saying the same shit for years. Pussification continues and many just wanna chew on tampons,

  • Alonzo

    Chad, I couldn’t agree with you more. This article is what everyone needs to hear.

  • Csg123

    Good read Chad. I concur 100%. Keep em coming.

  • guy

    Thank you for your article Chad. I need it.

  • Jay

    “In Samurai Bushido culture, sneaking up on the enemy from behind wasn’t allowed. You had to face the enemy from the front, like a man.”

    This is the common western view of samurai which is wholly inaccurate. In fact, samurai were known for doing the opposite.

  • I feel like my generation and the future generations of men in North America are getting softer physically and mentally. My female associations always complain that the only options they have are metrosexual guys with no back bone.