How to Become An Alpha Male in Modern Society

Here are some men you should study, and the books you should read on them/by them, if you want to be a true Alpha Male:

  1. Teddy Roosevelt: The Rise of Theodore RooseveltTheodore Rex
  2. Engineering the Alpha – by John Romaniello & Adam Bornstein
  3. Napoleon Bonaparte – The Rise of Napoleon Bonaparte
  4. Winston Churchill – Churchill
  5. By Steven Pressfield – The Warrior EthosThe War of Art
  6. By John Eldredge – Wild At Heart
  7. The Story of Mickey Ward – A Warrior’s Heart

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A warrior’s spirit differs from that of a coward. A warrior faces adversity head on, and with honor. A coward flees from adversity, cowers at the sight of danger, and cheats to win. There is no honor with a coward. An alpha male, however, lives by that warrior ethos that’s rooted in honor and bravery.

A warrior, and an alpha, accepts pain for what it is: the seedling of growth. It’s true with our muscles, just the same as it’s true with our Self. This is where risk and adventure play a great role. Men, especially an alpha male, needs adventure, he needs the great outdoors, he needs danger and excitement. We too often seek this adventure in the form of a mid-life crisis, when we realize we have the responsibilities of a man, but we know deep down we aren’t truly a real man. So we allow our juvenile desires to take over, and we buy a hot new car, a bike, go skydiving, and fill a void that can’t be filled in the form of danger and excitement.

Seek adventure now, even if you are in that middle to late age range, feed that masculine part of your soul that craves adventure. Push yourself to grow mentally, physically, and spiritually, who gives a fuck if you come off like you’re in a mid-life crisis, this thing needs to be fed! Just don’t be the son of a bitch that finds ‘danger’ in cheating on his wife, and leaving his family, that’s not the way of the alpha male, that’s the way of the scumbag.

Go ride horses, go hunting, fishing, start boxing and line up an amateur fight (a great experience), go hiking, ATVing, buy a motor bike. Bring adventure into your life to feed your warrior’s spirit. Face your fears head on, daily, never run from them. Remember, as you become more intelligent, you’ll be able to identify these fears more readily, and as you become physically stronger, you’ll be able to face them more successfully.

Create Emotional Strength

An alpha male is often seen as the dumb brute who locks out his feelings in order to gain strength. False. A true alpha male is more aware of his emotions and how they effect his decisions, how he treats people, and the kind of man he is, and reacts accordingly.

The man who is emotionally haunted by his mistakes of the past won’t be the strong father to his son. The man who is emotionally disabled won’t experience the fullness of life. He won’t shed a tear in Field of Dreams – every man should at least water at the eyes in that movie. He won’t feel the true elation of his first child. He won’t give his wife the passion their relationship deserves. He won’t fight for her, defend her, and be her match on an emotional level. If he doesn’t do this, the relationship is doomed to be as bland as an Italian wedding without wine – an experiment yet to be attempted due to the backlash that would surely ensue.

Part of developing emotional intelligence is awareness, it’s being aware of what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling it. This, again, has to do with intelligence in other areas, so read more books! Read Wild At Heartand The Way of the Superior Man. An alpha male isn’t emotionally illiterate, he’s more aware of his feelings, he lives with more passion. Life excites him, beauty makes him weak at the knees, a child’s smile softens his heart, and any damage done to an innocent child, animal, or woman, brings a rage within him so great that justice can’t even dampen its blaze.

Read, be aware of why you are the way you are so you can improve and grow into who you are to become. Make them known, then make them make you a better man, an alpha male.

Break Free From Your Shackles: Become an Alpha Male

Our society is sorely lacking real men. It’s no coincidence we’re failing to create great leaders, warriors, and alpha males as well. This article has looked at not only what a real alpha is – a man with a quiet strength, power, and confidence, and the courage to use this power – but how we can each become one.

It won’t be a quick, easy road. It will be like anything worth fighting for or creating in life: a battle. It will take a lot of self-reflection, something that many men shy away from because we’re afraid of what we’ll find. It requires that we face our deepest, darkest fears – something that no one truly wants to do because it’s not only uncomfortable, but we often have to take a step backwards in order to gain a few forward. But we need you to do this. We need strong-willed men in this world, especially in our society. We need leaders, risk takers, and men who embrace adventure, danger, and will lead us to new frontiers.

Stand up for yourself. You will die. This is about the only experience we’re all going to share. Remind yourself of it daily. You can’t put things off, ever. Your tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, so have the balls to make the you of today the warrior that you were meant to become. Don’t sell yourself short, either. Don’t think that you’re not a William Wallace, an Achilles, or a Teddy. You are. And you may even be greater. Are you willing to find out?

  • Great message as always, Chad. I found a lot of great information and guidelines in this, and I will bookmark it to refer to often. I have one niggling issue, though. It is small, but I have noticed it in a couple of your recent articles. I, in no way, look at Achilles as a real man. He pouted when his boss took his girl, he wouldn’t fight beside his brothers-in-arms, and he only got off his butt when a person close to him was killed. He knew he was invulnerable (in the original story, not in the movie Troy). He knew he really had nothing to lose. Hector on the other hand knew his brother had made the wrong choice, but stood beside his family. He knew he was going out to die, but he stepped forward nonetheless to defend a brother who, for all intents and purposes, didn’t deserve it. In that story, with all the selfishness and greed that it entails, Hector truly sets himself apart as the one true alpha male.

    • Great point! Hector is the real man. I just threw Achilles in there because of that great opening line in the movie. I’m going to make that change Jeremy, thanks for that.

  • wh1skey

    Chad, you will make men all right.

  • Awesome article, mate! We’re really on the same level.

    I’d suggest cutting the 3-page article and blend all the info into a 1-page article – I think it’s much more comfortable for the reader and it’s easier to read.

    • Thanks man! Ya the pages thing are done for SEO purposes, giving it a shot, testing it for a few months, we’ll see if I stick with it.

  • Manuel Rios

    Great article Chad, I just recently started following you and your website. Let me say that I am glad I did. It is great to see that there are young men out there like you that get it. Being a man has nothing to do with age. It has to do with a strong mind, body and spirit and you got that brother.
    I look forward to hearing more from you.

    • Thanks a lot Manuel – it’s great to have you here. And agreed, age isn’t the determinant of manhood, actions are.

  • What a great article. I am a woman and I have been saying this for years! Alas, it seems to have more impact when a man finally steps up and says it like it is.

    • Thanks Melissa! We NEED women commenting and being a part of this site, brings another perspective and some added validation, much appreciated.

  • I’ve read a good majority of your articles and rarely post. I couldn’t resist this time, but try saying this when you’re married lol! ” We aren’t dogs. We’re not meant to be tamed, told to sit, and scolded for giving in to our wild, warrior hearts.”

    • haha good point! Thanks for following the site man.

  • You have a great series going… you need to keep it up. I might add that the relationship to the warrior heart and the state of modern affairs needs to be highlighted. I would add almost anything by Kipling as part of the intellectual inspiration… the man had the warrior’s heart in mind in almost all that he wrote.

    More importantly, they (Kipling’s writings) express that the world around the man and the forces surrounding the man do not matter (be they positive or negative) but it is the man himself and his actions that matter.

    With regard to the single page versus multiple pages and the SEO conundrum, if I might suggest another option; if you have the multiple pages OR the option to view on a single page, someone is always clicking something and you can always raise your SEO.

    • Great point on Kipling – I’ll incorporate his stuff in the future for sure. I’ll have my team look into that option for SEO as well, seems like a good alternative.

    • shammy

      Talking about Kipling…..

      IF you can keep your head when all about you
      Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
      If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
      But make allowance for their doubting too;
      If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
      Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
      Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
      And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

      If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
      If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
      If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
      And treat those two impostors just the same;
      If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
      Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
      Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
      And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

      If you can make one heap of all your winnings
      And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
      And lose, and start again at your beginnings
      And never breathe a word about your loss;
      If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
      To serve your turn long after they are gone,
      And so hold on when there is nothing in you
      Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

      If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
      Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
      If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
      If all men count with you, but none too much;
      If you can fill the unforgiving minute
      With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
      Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
      And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!

      I have to say, this is a wonderful article along with, well the entire collection more or less. Chris, Kudos to you sir.
      P.s I realise I’m like 6 months late but hoping you still about (online that is)

      • shammy

        *Chad – I have no idea where I got Chris from.

      • One of the greatest poems ever. Absolutely love this. Thanks!

  • Ben C.

    Chad, once again you have written another truly awesome article. I have started to listen to ManOWar while reading your articles for a triumphant warrior all round feel.

  • Wild at Heart is a great book man. My then fiance gave me this book before we got married. 9 years later it’s still one of my all time “Man Up” books! It’s definitely more on the emotional, reflective side of things but I think that is a good thing. Made me realize even more the impact I will have on my kids whether it be good or bad.

    Been reading your blog for awhile now Chad… love it!

    • That’s so cool man. Ya I love that book along with others that are helping me shape into the man I’m becoming. Great book.

  • James

    From the old hippie warrior Carlos Castanada:
    There is no need to make sense out of human affairs because there is none. When you see human folly for what it is, you become a calm strong warrior. Choose the path with heart, bear your cross and burdens. Ask and god will help you fight the dark forces that are stronger than you.

    • Enlightening, cool, strong. Love it. Thanks James.

  • DJ

    Absolutely epic… Recommended this site to a bunch of my friends you really know how to inspire


    Dude…how to take sarcasm efficiently from people…. espicially Girls!!!!???


    AWESOME ARTICLE!!!!! There is this one article i wanted to ask that how to respond to sarcastic comments from people espicially girls like a man???

    • How do you mean, man? There’s funny sarcasm and belittling sarcasm. It’s of the belittling kind, don’t waist your time on that person. I get my fair share of sarcasm, especially on youtube, I just ignore it. Not worth my time nor my energy.

  • One grateful woman

    I just came across your site and I want to say, “Thank you!” It is encouraging to be reminded that there are guys out there working to be Real Men. I’ll be sure to remind my friends not to settle for an imitation, since there are still warrior-hearted men in this world!

    • That’s great to hear! It’s awesome having a woman’s perspective on here as well, so thanks for joining us.