20 Characteristics of a Real Man

Characteristics that a man should possess

First, let me start off by saying that I am in no way the authority of what a real man should be because I think that I possess every single one of these characteristics or values. Each and everyday I learn something new about myself, or even a new way of thinking.

One thing I have definitely learnt over the past year, is that life will humble you. It humbles all of us at one time or another, which is something that we either embrace, or we fight. If we resist, and we’re never humbled by ‘these moments’, we’ll never learn.

The first step we must take in becoming the man we are meant to be, is to realize exactly who we are, what our strengths and weaknesses are, and what we can offer the world. I’m not perfect. I’m terribly imperfect, and I’m reminded of it everyday, which allows me plenty of room for growth.

That being said, I’m pretty awesome, and you’re reading this blog, so you’re obviously pretty awesome as well :) So, I’d love to hear what you have to say.

Leave any additions to this article in the comments section by answering this question: what characteristics does the ideal man possess?

20 characteristics of a the ultimate man

1. A man treats women with respect. If you don’t respect women, you’re not a man. Period.

2. A man understands that greater happiness lies in helping others, not helping himself.

3. A man doesn’t stand still while the world passes him by, he continually pushes himself.

4. A man is a leader in at least one aspect of his life, whether this means his family, with his friends or just in general. But he can also follow. The world wouldn’t work if everyone was trying to lead in every aspect of life.

5. You can depend on a man. You can’t depend on a boy.

6. “You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself.” ~ Galileo Galilei

A man is proud, often to a fault. He doesn’t “change” but rather evolves. Ladies, don’t try and change your man, but let him evolve into the man he’s meant to be.

7. A man doesn’t need to be able to fight or to protect himself and his family physically. But it helps. He does however need to be willing to do whatever it takes to keep his family safe and happy.

8. A man lives for something; a purpose beyond his own personal gains. This can come with time, and with family. It doesn’t always happen right away.

9. “Many of the greatest accomplishments of the world were accomplished by tired and discouraged men who kept on working.”

A man gets depressed, he gets sad, he thinks about quitting and folding, but he never does. He pushes through adversity.

10. “When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.” ~ Louis Nizer

A man has faults. It’s important to understand this.

11. A man can laugh at himself.

12. A man takes pride in how he looks and lives his life. He’s not ashamed by who he is, what he does or how he looks, even if he’s trying to change one of the aforementioned.

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13. “Young men want to be faithful, and are not; old men want to be faithless, and cannot.” ~ Oscar Wilde

Men learn what is truly important over time. If they’re lucky, they’ll have a sense of it early on.

14. “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” ~ Oscar Wilde

If a man finds someone special, he doesn’t treat her like she’s everyone else.

15. A man has fears, but he isn’t ruled by them.

16. A man learns from his mistakes. Although he might take a few cracks at it.

17. A man does what is necessary. Even if it’s the hardest decision, or the most unpopular one.

18. A man can appreciate the greatness that is ‘The Gladiator’.

19. A man thrives on competition.

20. “For a man to achieve all that is expected of him, he must regard himself greater than he is.” ~ Johann Wolfgang

What characteristics would you find in the ideal man?


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  • Brandon

    Something to add to number 2. While helping others is important, I believe men also need to occasionally put themselves first. It's similar to the fine line between a "nice guy" and a "doormat". When you do nothing but helping others, you leave yourself vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Respect yourself enough to know if someone else isn't.
    Two more minor rules.
    A man knows how to speak well, including written words. Learn decent grammar.
    A man realizes that the occasional swear word can enhance an argument, but overuse only makes him sound unintelligent.

    • Chad Howse

      Brian – well said! Thanks.

    • Andrew

      I agree. Well said. You seem realize what it takes to be a man. And maybe you read the Art of Manliness from time to time?

      • Chad Howse

        Thanks Andrew, AoM is a great site. I actually did a series of articles for them.

        Tons of great content on that site – must read for any guy.

    • Free Man

      Looks like it was written by a woman. In all actuality, this just looks like another set of morals or values someone is trying to shove down others' throats.

      • Chad Howse

        That's an interesting take on the article. I didn't write it in a way that would please everyone. I'm stating my view, which most people that read the article have found some value in.

        There ARE valuable principles in the article that are, however, not intended to be shoved down anyone's throat. If you feel there are other principles that were missed, or – more importantly maybe – principles that shouldn't have made the list I'd love to hear what they are.

        – Chad

      • Arthur

        Chad – Great job. I have been expressing these same characteristics to my (3) sons for years. They are so important and valuable. I have just emailed them to my boys as a mental refresher. Keep up the great job. A Dad who cares….

      • Chad Howse

        Thanks for this Arthur, means a lot to hear this coming from a Dad.

        Glad I can be of some service.

      • Wrestler

        You sir have just shown you are a "man" without morals values or principles; without these there is nothing left, you are nothing.

      • Jean Paul

        I agree with you totally.

    • Shane

      Well said :)

      • Shane

        I actually wouldn’t of wrote my comment if I had seen yours first, but I’m happy I started scrolling down and reading everybody else’s comments/replies, the other two you stated are dead on too, good stuff buddy.

  • Andrew

    Nice post, Chad. It seems that you have #13 down, esp. coming up with a list like this. Reading #9 reminded me of Micky Ward and James J. Braddock, guys who just give it all. Those were the first two guys that popped into my mind.

    I like all of these, but I really like #1. My father said that a husband treats his wife how he treated his girlfriends. And he treats his girlfriends the way he treated his mother. A boy cannot become a man without respecting others, particularly women. You hit the nail on the head.

    Keep up the good work, Chad.

    • Chad Howse

      Andrew – your father knows what he's talking about. That's a great saying to live by, I'm going to save that.

      Thanks man.

  • Ian D. Mackay

    Another awesome post.
    I struggle with #16. I can make some great mistakes but forget to learn from them!

  • Joe D.

    "Men learn what is truly important over time. If they’re lucky, they’ll have a sense of it early on."

    I think you have a sense of what is important, Chad, so keep expanding that vision. I thought I knew about what was important as a young man myself, but now that I'm pushing 48, I realize that you miss a lot of little details about those essential parts of life. Keep doing what you're doing, and write things down that don't seem essential now….

    And yes, the greatness that is "Gladiator" is necessary man stuff as well.

    • Chad Howse

      Thanks Joe – I appreciate it!

  • stonesolidperformance

    Chad- #17 definitely stuck out…How true is it that as boys become men we learn that our biggest decisions are often the hardest and sometimes the most unpopular, but if we're truly becoming men we understand this and make the decision anyway because we know whats best. If it were so easy there would be a lot more men and a lot less boys…

    Great post.

    • Chad Howse

      Thanks man,

      I'm still learning this a lot right now. The older we get, the greater effect our decisions have on others as well. It's a constant process that'll never end. Making tough decisions isn't always fun, but they're necessary.

      – Chad

  • Jonathan

    I agree with Brian about the first point. I think there is something to be said about being healthily selfish, but not being unhealthily unselfish. I had been unhealthily unselfish for too long and I'm now more healthily selfish. I feel that I am happier now, even though I still help others.

    If I could add #21 to the list, I would mention something about an authentic version of yourself. Last weekend, I listened to Neil Pasricha, the author of 1000 Awesome Things blog and book, on He had an excellent example of a man being authentic to himself. This guy was a huge football player. Know what he did during his downtime? Needlepoint. The audience laughed, but I found myself beaming with a big smile. To me, I admire men who do things that suit them despite how un-macho and un-masculine other people may think those things are.

    By the way, here's the link to the lecture that I was talking about:

    • Chad Howse

      Hey Jonathan,

      Great point and thanks for the link, I'll check it out for sure.

  • Ashley

    As a woman that just came across this article, I have to say I love this. My friends and I often discuss the traits that we hope to find in men. Our lists includes many of these things but has never been so detailed or all inclusive. Congrats on having it figured out more than most.

    • Chad Howse

      Thanks Ashley!

  • Matt Wojo

    a man understands that there are iiffy regions where men can do iffy things and not set landmarks for concrete definitions of constitutes a man.. think about it

    • Chad Howse

      I agree Matt.

      And I don't think you can set rigid guidelines that a man HAS TO have. But each of the characteristics I mentioned are great attributes. You don't HAVE TO have them. But they'd benefit any man to have even one of them.

      Thanks for the comment – great thought.


  • Victoria

    Chad, what a great list! You hit the nail on the head with this.

    I'm showing this to my deuchebag husband tonight!

    • RAJ


  • Johnny

    I was just cruising and came across your site. Glad I did…#1 needs to be more definitive I think, with some examples…Respect can mean a lot of things…like never put a women down for her thoughts/ideas no matter how bad or dumb they may seem, never treat her like she's inferior in any way, never call her names other than her own (or sweetheart). That just shows YOUR stupidity…Another item for your list is a real man never says bad of anyone behind their back…. Other people will think you do the same to them….

    • Chad Howse

      Great points – thanks for the comment.

      I like the last one especially. Thanks man.

  • damien

    a man is what I want to be. Said from the boy who has a lot of work to do.

    • Lawrence

      Same here. I'm glad I'm not the only boy striving to become a man.

  • frankiejholden

    -a real man is honest – about who he is and what he has done in his life
    -a real man speaks up – even if it is to say things others dont want to hear
    -a real man is focused on progress – not performance – on the process, not the goal
    -a real man tries to give love to all, but does not have to respect people just because they are of the opposite gender. -respect is earnt, anything freely given has no value.
    -a real man loves his family and therefore wants to protect them from harm. This does not have to involve fighting anyone.
    -a real man has a true purpose – one that hopefully contributes to the wellbeing of others.
    -a real man thrives not in competition, but in cooperation. Competition is based on winners and losers, placing value in it simply makes losers feel less of themselves and makes winners buy into the temporary delusion that they are better than others.
    -a real man doesn't care how he looks in the mirror. Period. He cares only for his health and the health of those around him. The fact that this may result in looking good is immaterial.

    • Chad Howse

      Well said!

    • Margaret

      I believe respect should be freely given until someone does something undeserving of respect. I believe in chivilry and holding doors open for women, yes, women are the childbeaerers and physically not as strong as our male counterparts. Respect of women in this way, as well as the elderly should be freely given. And might I note that a lot of men think that if ppl don’t go through a series of events proving themselves, to “earn” respect, then it is okay to actively DISRESPECT a person and be rude to them and this is a warped and unacceptable way of enterpreting earning of respect.

  • Shante Piersall

    Beneficial article, I enjoyed it very much. Shante Piersall

  • Kalvin Smith

    Awesome article Chad. I’m a Martial Arts instructor and re-posted your article on our clubs FaceBook pace so that our students would benefit. Deepest Thanks.

    • Chad Howse

      Hey thanks for passing the word on Kalvin – I appreciate it man. If there's anything I can do for you let me know.

  • RAJ

    Great post chad, I agree with 19 out of 20 points.

  • Ange

    Awesome I agree with all of these! My boyfriend of 7 years and I just got in a huge fight because I thought that when we are together and we need to put gas in the car that he should voluntarily pump it out of common decency and he freaked out on me and refused. Telling me that this was just a test of his "manhood" and that he won't give in. We have a 4 year old son who witnessed this argument and chimed swing "dad, just be nice to mom". I feel like my child gets me better than my boyfriend. Was I out of line to expect him to go to the pump for me?? I would love an outside opinion…

    • Chad Howse

      I obviously don't know the full story, but from what it sounds like you were in the right. Doesn't make sense to blow up over something so trivial either. Makes more sense that he'd actually want to do that for you.

      Maybe he was having a bad day though, you never know. Weird to make a stance on that, something else had to be bothering him.

  • http://Website h

    A real man does not follow the stupid rules like a slave. He lives outside of the world and tell the whole society to kiss his natural ass.

    • Jared Gilmore

      Then separate from society.

  • Corinna Fandrich

    Excuse me, but I tried to email you regarding an issue on your blog but the given email address did not work. Is there an alternate place I could get in touch with you?

  • Jared Gilmore

    I agree with most of this list, but I do sort of have an issue with number 7. I agree that men don't all need to be martial artists or bodybuilders, but being physically fit in order to protect the ones we love should be more common. A man can't say he would do anything he can to protect his family if he never seeks to improve physically. If he really cares, he will prepare himself.
    We all have minds and bodys and I believe we should cultivate them to the best of our abilities and situations. A man shouldn't let himself go to waste.

    • Chad Howse

      Jared, very well said.

    • Wrestler

      Thank you thank you thank you….
      It is a very important point that a man who is willing to do anything to provide and protect will seek to improve himself physically, the determining factor is the motivation of his physical discipline whether it be self serving or for his wife; future wife -if he isn't there yet-; or his family.

      • Chad Howse

        Couldn't agree more. Thanks for the comment.

    • Shane

      Well said buddy, and couldn’t be more true.

  • Arrol Howze

    One thing:

    A man "Says what he means, and means what he says" this means not posting a RETRACTION at the beginning of his list on what a "Real Man" is. Real men know that other men follow there own path so the ideals put forth in his list are just suggestions. As real men know that all rules they "choose" to follow are just suggestions.

    Also there are too many filler quotes, and really a movie for 18?

    • Sarcast

      A man always provides constructive feedback…

  • Paul

    I think this is pretty well said. It makes me stop and think a bit. I really like that part where you say a real many may think about quitting but does not and keeps going.

    • Chad Howse

      Thanks Paul – glad you like the article!

      • xavier

        Horizontal relationships are o.k. in this article. Vertical relationship is missing as we have been created according to God's image. Jesus is the perfect model of how a real man should look like. Read the Gospels for more information.

      • Josh King

        It’s obvious you’re a very outspoken Christian. But putting Christian beliefs in a fitness article is not a good idea as not everyone on the Internet is Christian.

        One question: How do you know what Jesus looked like?

      • Chad Howse

        I haven’t mentioned my religious beliefs on this site, Josh. I’m not one to push anything on anyone. The article above simply states characteristics a man should have, nowhere does it say what a man should believe – that’s NOT for me to say. It’s clear you’re not right for this community, so kindly leave.

      • Chad Howse

        Josh, I just realized you weren’t talking to me! Sorry dude. I totally missed this. My bad.

        With that said, if someone wants to talk about God, whomever that may be, cool. I don’t have a problem with that in the comments section, nor do I have a problem with what you said.

        I hope you get this man, my apologies.

  • Regina Balvanz

    This is a nice list and something all men should aspire to and all women should look for.

    • Regina Balvanz

      I'd like to add to that, I love, Love, LOVE number 14. :)

    • Chad Howse

      Hey Regina, I never really thought of it like that, great point! And 14's a great one indeed.

  • Dr. Ben

    Nice list, though wasn't as impressed with the movie.

    I think a real man defines what it is to be a man. He doesn't let society do that for him.

    A man doesn't forget what it has meant to be a man in his father's and grandfather's time. The "greatest generation" was just that for standing up for what was important in ways that are mostly lost today. Honor them. Be manly in ways that honor them, even in small ways, like shaving with a straight razor or changing your own oil, and in big ways, like making true sacrifices for what is important and what you truly believe in.

    • Chad Howse

      I like what you have to say Ben. Thanks for the comment. "true sacrifices for what is important" is necessary. Well said.

  • busthead

    1) A real man is an individual, he believes in personal freedom and liberty and fights collectivism and the state.

    2) A real man is stoic especially in regards to death.

    • Chad Howse

      Well said!

      You guys are adding to this list in a great way. Another awesome comment and submission.

    • Anand Venigalla

      Good. No. 1 is why I am a libertarian anarcho-capitalist in the tradition of Murray Rothbard, Ludwig von Mises (not an anarchist, but definitely a libertarian), and the greats of the classical liberal and libertarian tradition.

  • mia

    well said..i would say that a real man, says the thruth even when it’s not convinient, even when he might hurt someone he deeply cares about, and he does it without a doubt, looking straight into their eyes..a real man doesn’t tell a women he loves her, while he goes to sleep with another one everynight..and most importantly he thrives to honor those he has hurt in the past, by not commiting the same mistakes..

    • Chad Howse

      Mia this is great, thanks. “a real man doesn’t tell a women he loves her, while he goes to sleep with another one every night.” Well said, as with everything else you said.

      • dave

        The truth is, the things that make a real man are difficult to achieve, all men have a few of the necessary qualities chad mentioned (there are more) but not many if any have all of them. they seem old fashioned and that is because they have stood the test of time. We sometimes rail against them growing up say e.g. “a man do not have to be strong” if we are not. admitting to our selves we don’t have that quality right now and working towards it is admirable. we don’t even have to completely succeed, we just have to try, and get back up and try again. failure is never to try, not to fail. The pursuit of being a real man is what attracts, all that you want and need, as a by product and you will understand that as it happens to you. for instance we train to get strong and are more desirable as a by product. do what is right and it really does bring joy.

        I hope that’s not too preachy, just calling it as i see it.

      • Chad Howse

        Not at all, I like it Dave, well said.

  • Uchay Santiago

    What is a man without his God?

    • Nam Itsche

      Answerable and responsible for himself and his own actions. Never on his knees.

      • Dragonius

        For the man is not a disgrace to kneel before God.

    • Shane

      He’s someone who isn’t waiting for food to rain down from heaven, he’s a man because he doesn’t need approval from god/family/friends to make his own decisions and survive/protect/provide for his family and himself, no offence to your religious beliefs buddy

  • mike

    a man give a lot of men to men,,.. i hate my wife, but my bestfriend guy i fall in love….

  • Jason

    Real men are devoted fathers not deadbeat dads!

    • Chad Howse

      You can’t be a man if you’re a deadbeat dad. Agreed.

  • anon

    I real man isn’t someone who isn’t constantly worrying about being a real man.

    • anon


    • f carter

      the guy who was crucified next to Christ became a real man breathing his last breath!

  • Paul

    A Real Man Listens to and respects his parents!

    • Chad Howse


  • Paul

    Nice Article!

  • deric

    He’s tolerant of the weakness of others. Builds his house bricks. Doesn’t go by the sayings and advice of others but finds his own truth by reading studying then letting it digest until his own intuition gives him the answer.

    • Chad Howse

      Agreed. But no man is a true original, I’d like to add that. We are a collection of the men before us. We take from other great men to build our own foundation, our own ideas, and create our own identity. But knowledge, through learning, is how we build that foundation. Thanks for the comment.

      • Scott

        Chad, great article. I often find myself wondering where I went wrong in a situation, how it could be done better, and asking God for the truth in the matter. I have to disagree, though, to a point with the statement that no man is a true original. While our personalities, thought patterns and looks may be an amalgamation of those men who came before us, or those men whom we intend to model ourselves after, I truly believe that inside each man who ever lived is a creation that never existed before. Like the grains of sand on the beach all being different, and snowflakes not any two being the same, each man’s creation (birth,life,death) is unique to him and him alone and is a spectacular gift from our true Father.

      • Scott

        By the way, I look forward to reading more of your posts, thanks for the inspiration and uplifting conversation!

      • Chad Howse

        I hear ya Scott. Maybe I should have said no man’s greatness is purely his own. I’m reading a lot on Napoleon right now, and although he was a revolutionary general, his ideas on battle were his because he read and studied others. That’s more what I was going after.

        Thanks for the comment man!

  • Antony Sabatia Juma

    Real man pretends to be stupid while extracting information from the wife.

    • Chad Howse


  • Shane

    2. A man understands that greater happiness lies in helping others, not helping himself. ~ this one is flawed to a certain extent, as in if your not able to help yourself than how can you help others or be truly happy with yourself, you always gotta have a little non egotistic selfishness in yourself [people take advantage of someone who is too nice as in they always give in and say yes to every demand asked of them instead of sometimes saying no to the demand you know is non-beneficial and unfair to you even if it makes you look unfavourable/unpopular, and in no way am I implying be a douche or be mean to others but just weed through those demands of you and only fufill the ones you know dont hurt you, I used to fall into that trap of always trying to please everyone growing up as a boy and young teenager, but haven’t in like 8 years since I actually started having more respect for myself and well-being/goals. “Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness”

    • Chad Howse

      I agree with you on this one. A real man has to take care of business. But helping others is still definitely important.

  • Nahian

    Very Islamic :)

  • arealman

    A real man drinks dos equis beer

  • Knersus

    A real man knows how to sneak in marketing material (see point 12) 😉

    • Chad Howse

      haha it’s a great program, if it hadn’t already helped hundreds, and if it didn’t provide way more value than the cost, I wouldn’t post it in the list.

  • N J English

    real men are over 18 years of age.

    • stame

      in south america I once met a 15yo without father, working hard to pay school for his sister and little brother. I offered him good amount of money (very little for me due to currencies) and he took just a part of it and gave back the rest saying “I can’t accept more than this”, then hug me.
      that boy was already a man.

      • Chad Howse

        Well said.

  • Toptobottom76

    A real man sports a big, thick 1970’s style moustache

  • Will

    I like this for the most part aside from #2. It reeks of altruism.

  • Jim

    Trying to help a co worker save some teeth with words (working on being a better man myself) great advice can I post this at work.

  • truee

    a real stands on the truth no mather the circumstance.

  • mukaram

    Chad house, josh king was responding to xavier, not you, about the religious jesus thing you got mad with him mistakingly.

  • Keith Thompson

    A real man spends time with and around children.

  • Elizakay

    Real men write stuff like this. Not necessarily the 20 characteristics, but the prologue cracked me up. thanks for the chuckle.

    • Chad Howse

      I love chuckling. Possibly one of my favorite things to do. You’re welcome.

  • mazy tarwater

    Now where can I find one?

  • claire

    looking for a real man who would love me, respect each other, helps me to move on in life, be there for me, protect me, i’m loyal and sincere, just looking for a loyal man too and has words of honor.

  • claire

    message me at, if you’re willing to love me and is looking for a loyal gf too.

  • Briana-Marie

    Real Men don’t try to change the world. They strive to make themselves better, to do the right thing, live honestly and show what change they want to see. They know that they can only control themselves but have the ability to influence the world.

  • precious heart

    handsome, caring, loving,stick to one,godfearing,tall, smart,romantic, generous, honest, intelligence, kind, has a good sense of humour, good listener, understanding , has a bright future, faithful, vision, especially……….love you for the rest of
    his life….!!

  • Jean Paul

    This is all crap. A man is someone who was born in that gender.

    All this nonsense is what creates all this confusion in today’s world.

    A man’s character has nothing to with his gender. Regardless, of whether he is honest or not, he is still a man.

    • kj1986nyc

      Yea these guys are just supplicants

    • Taylor

      The title of the original article has to deal with the “ultimate” or most desirable man. We could all just raise our little penis bearing children with absolutely no sense of values and sure after 18 you can legally call him a man. But who wants to have a man as a life partner, employee or employer who doesn’t have good character traits. The article is meant to inspire men to be grow, to improve I believe.

  • privatehelp01

    how does one be a leader say with women e.t.c say like male leadership?

  • privatehelp01

    how does one be a leader say with women e.t.c say like male leadership?

  • Raghu Mahaadev

    It’s really informative. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

  • Amy G. Kaufman

    You know who they are and you know who they aren’t…

  • Ahmed

    A real man is mentally and physically strong,
    Has a good heart,
    Moves away from sin,
    Accepts and appreciates who he is,
    Accepts and respects everyone,
    Has religion,
    Has dreams and ambitions,
    Always speaks the truth,
    Always thinks before making a decision,
    Accepts his mistakes and knows that he isn’t perfect,
    Is humble,
    Inspires others by being a role model,
    Commands respect,
    Respects women,
    Loves his wife and remains faithful to her forever,
    A Devoted father,
    Protects his family,
    Keeps a roof over their heads
    Earns a living,
    Doesn’t care what others think of him,
    Has emotions and is able to express himself,
    A real man never gives up and is optimistic about the future.

    • Chad Howse

      Love it! Thanks for taking the time to share that Ahmed.

    • Ethan

      In my opinion, religion isn’t a necessary to be areal man. Many men did not have a religion and still achieved greatness such as Mark Twain, Vincent Van Gogh, Mikhail Gorbachev, and Friedrick Nietzsche.

      • C

        All these men have a religion. They believe in themselfs and their value systems. That is their religion.


        Ah, but, Fredrick Nietzsche was a selfish hedonists.
        Van Gogh was also selfish and his jealousy bordered on the psychotic. His paintings were more chaotic than unifying.

  • kj1986nyc

    So basically a “man” is a slave?

    • Chad Howse

      You missed the point of the article. Have a look at a few others on the site to get a more well-rounded view.

      He’s the opposite. He’s free, wild, adventurous, courageous, and a man of honor. There can be no weakness amidst those characteristics.

  • Sheri Veronica

    Truthful, respectful and true to his word.

  • Adam

    In my oppinion a real man has no use for thriving on competition because he does not feel the need to compete.
    I also feel that a real man is capable of “rising above it” and “being the bigger man”.

    • Chad Howse

      Interesting. We’ll have to disagree on that one. Men have been defending their loved ones for thousands of years – competition/battle. I think battle is in us, it brings the best out of us, as does competition. It’s not so much a need to prove to others that we’re worthy, but the thrill that comes from competing. It’s exciting, and life should be exciting.

      I see where you’re coming from though, and there are those who need competition to prove they’re men, and give it to them. We all need some validation at some point in our lives. Thanks for the comment brother.

  • handel

    19b…A man thrives on completition and completness of task

  • mikole

    A man loves his family & God first…..Great article. Thanks for taking the time to write it.

  • Th Truth

    I think that some of you guys are actually describing a god instead of a mere human male. A real man is someone who can stand his ground and also be responsible for himself and all his actions, everything else is a bonus.

    • Chad Howse

      Ahh, I hear you, and agree in part. A real man is someone who stands his ground, I completely agree, but some of these other characteristics can be just as valuable – agree? Though he may not possess all of them, the ones you mentioned are definitely a prerequisite.

  • Ronaldo Trevino Basson

    A real man always does what is rigth and not what is expected.

  • silver

    Real men don’t take any of this drivel seriously. He does what needs doing and lets candyassed fools write and read junk like this.

    • Chad Howse


  • arthur

    sounds like any decent woman can be a man.

    • taylor

      Except control testosterone surges and be a loving and faithful husband and father;

  • Suniel Dil

    Important points. Thanks.

  • tesmith47

    the whole idea of manhood and womanhood are defective. we all should strive to be adult humans,

    • Chad Howse

      True, but we’re very different. And that should be praised not shunned or changed. Men should understand what it is to be masculine. They should know what’s required of them. And that’s where articles like this come in.

  • Raul Felix

    Beautiful. I constantly try to improve myself as a man. I’m not everything on this list, but I’m working on it and the journey is the best part.

  • Dbakeca Italia

    this is true…nice post

  • f carter

    A real man? don’t make me laugh!

  • jawshadam

    Definitely agree with the number of things that are being told here that represent a real man.. there’s a blog I would love anyone’s input on that involved the new so called ‘Modern Man’

    Have a look and leave your comments.


    • Chad Howse

      Hey man, I should put it in writing, but I don’t allow anyone pumping their blogs in the comments section, it’s just a tad lazy. I do, however, accept guest articles, so if you want to write one, fire it my way. Would love to put your stuff on the site.

      I’ll have to delete the comment though. Hope you see this.

  • alaina&angelo

    a real man is a guy who love who he is and don’t care what other people say as long as he is happy.

    if there is a women involved then he will be there for her every time and showing her that he is ready to settle down and get out of the crazy world then that will show that he is a true man and nothing is standing in his way.

    if that man has any kids then he will always be there for the children and take care of them if the mother is not able to.

    im 16 years old and i haven’t seen my father since i was 6 so 10 years and i barley hear from him. so he just proved he is not a real man and i am also a young mother and my husband is always there for my children. when Carlie got out of the hospital he was always making her bottle and changing her and caring for her every time i needed a rest. he proved to my that he is a real man and a good father.

    there are true man out there don’t matter what age they are they are there your just not looking. and it don’t matter if the man is close to god or not he will always be a true man to someone.

  • Billy bob

    Perfect wording

  • mandeep singh dhillon

    a real man always enjoy the life every second……………

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  • Jaime Gandarilla

    Hetero panic is growing really tiresome…
    I hate that Masculinity feels always under attack.

  • 박임복

    Is there a real man? I haven’t seen this kind of man. If I can see a man who knows himself and keep trying to change to be a better man, it seems like a real man to me.

  • stupid_WRITING

    Your shittty website is just as garbled to read on a mobile interface as the contents.