Life boils down to a series of choices. Before you know it, the one’s you make, and the one’s you don’t make, become you.
But, which you?
Are you making the choices in life that are creating the you that you want to be…
It’s a tough question to ask because we really don’t know what the future holds. A lot of the time its not all that clear which decisions we’re making are going to turn out to be the big ones, that will shape our lives for years to come. Or which one’s are completely inconsequential.
If you think about it for a second, however, none of the choices we make are inconsequential. No decision we make has no consequence. The degree of effect they have on our lives differ, of course, but we have no clue how much they differ.
What decisions you make will lead you to become the best you, and which decisions will lead you to become the worst you?
All choices lead you somewhere.
Bold choices take you where you’re supposed to be.
How do you make bold decisions?
Well, I think you make bold decisions by acting like you know exactly what you want. Even though might not have the slightest clue.
If you at least act like you know exactly what you want out of life, or in a given situation, or who you want, and what you want to do, you’re going to make much more decisive and bold decisions.
When we’re working hard, and moving forward, me and my buddies always say we’re “making moves.” It cuts a conversation by about 99%.
What are you doing?
Making moves. You?
Alright, talk soon.
What I’ve noticed is that when I know exactly what I want – or even if I’m faking it to some degree – much bigger things happen, and much larger moves are made. This never fails to occur.
When I know what I want out of an article, it’s written faster and better than one is written if I’m unclear about what I want to write. And, if you’ve noticed, I have decreased my article production in an effort to only put out the absolute best quality I can put out.
Where are you supposed to be?
Ask another question:
What does your ideal life look like? I mean, what truly makes you happy. I’m not talking about cars, girls, booze, and binging like you’re dying in 24 hours and you have to run down ‘the list’. I’m talking more along the lines of, if you had to live one day, everyday for the rest of your life, what would it look like? Who would you be with? Where would you be?
We place limitations on ourselves when there’s no need to be doing so. Don’t place any limitations on yourself when you’re trying to figure out where you’re supposed to be. Your dreams should be completely limitless. What the fuck is the point of dreaming if you place limitations on them?
That’s the first, and probably the last time I’ll drop the f-bomb on this blog, but it makes no sense to me to limit ourselves.
Our choices are going to make us who we are.
They are going to turn us into the unhappy failures that we are going to eventually become. Or they are going to make us the happy, wildly successful people we are meant to be!
No one is born to be a failure. No one. Everyone has the ability to live out their dreams. And now to quote one of my favorite movies of all time, Blow:
Diego: “You have a dream. And maybe, you will accomplish it. But yet you failed. Why?”
George: “Because I got caught.”
Diego: “No, you failed, because you had the wrong dream.”
Sometimes we construct our dreams because we think is what we want and what is best for us. We see a guy driving a Ferrari and we fall in love with the idea that one day we might drive that same Ferrari. And if that car is a symbol of your success, hard work, and the quality of your work, then that’s great.
But don’t fool yourself into thinking that a car is going to make you happy beyond your wildest dreams. There’s way more to life than that.
Here’s another line from Blow:
“For ten years, my father worked his ass off 14 hours a day, seven days a week. He didn’t care, as long as we were happy.”
That might be your dream. Or it might be mine. When you have a family, dreams change, and what’s most important to you does a 180 degree turnaround. Your choice could be to be a great dad and experience all of the joy that comes from raising a family.
I’m in the same boat as you. I’m going through life, trying to be receptive to opportunities as they present themselves. Trying not to miss a great opportunity to make a bold choice, working me arse off, and taking steps forward.
I want to make the bold decisions that will shape me into the person I’m supposed become.
Part of that is being receptive to the right opportunities and snatching them up. Part of that is having the balls to be able to make the tough decisions, or take the risks needed. Some of it is being willing to work your ass off day after day, year after year working on a dream that has no certainty of coming true. And only you know why you’re working on this dream.
My plea to you – and to myself – is for us to make the bold, brash, and confident choices that will help us build our best lives in every way that is humanly possible.
Build your best body. Cultivate your best relationships. Construct your best career and family life. Grab life by the balls and have your way with it. Help others. Take care of your own shit. And be Legendary.
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