Sacha, All due respect, I think you might be misunderstanding what he’s saying. I could be wrong of course. Hell, I could be the one misunderstanding, I count on my fingers. 😀

To fix (in my opinion) what you said: some people are born in riches, and some are born in poor uneducated families, and that may or may not affect most of their future. Some people will live most of their life sick or disabled, no one deserve that, but they also don’t deserve to let that stop them.”

Why should it stop them? Yes, the odds aren’t in their favor, but that does not mean that they cannot try, cannot strain against their state in life and become stronger for it.

I come from a broken home, abuse from a step father, asthmatic, welfare, bullies, different city & different school each year. And not to make it such a pity party, I was by my own choice, lazy and depressed. I wallowed in my shit life.

Then I chose to climb out of that. I could have given up and become my father, step father or any of the other of the examples of failed men in my family and many times I have strayed dangerously close to that threshold, but everyday I choose to strain against that track laid before me, that pre-fabricated groove in the road so easy to walk.

Did I deserve that childhood? That sickness? Those poor examples of men? No. But those are mine nonetheless. And I choose to fight. And no one told me I could fight. I had to think and search and fail and get up and try again.

I don’t mean this to sound like I’m tooting my own horn here, I merely mean to show that it can be done.

It’s dangerous for our mental health to say that we deserve our fate. Because the experience just shows it’s not true, some people are born in riches, and some are born in poor uneducated families, and that will affect most of their future. Some people will live most of their life sick or disabled, no one deserve that.

As you said we can’t control everything, Success might happen, it might not. We’d better focus on what we like to do, or what we do. And stop caring about success, happiness, love and other stuff we have no control over. We can control a part of our actions. But in no way can we control our emotions, feelings or future.

I used to think the same, but my experience as a medical student changed my mind.

Look for Alain de Botton, or Alan Watts on youtube for some peaceful wisdom.

A fellow reader from France.

Always your fan and follower,
Suraj