Thanks for the comment, I love that there are so many different perspectives and worldviews here. I do think that women and men are different, and try and treat one another the same, and teach us to BE the same, is detrimental to both sexes. We’re different, we have different roles, and that’s a great thing. A woman CEO may lead differently than a male CEO, that doesn’t mean that there should only be male CEO’s or female CEO’s, but that their different styles and attributes should be highlighted and praised.

We have different “essences” or energies, make-ups or attributes. I also think that every man needs to have some of those qualities that are deemed more “feminine” (emotional intelligence, caring, kindness), and that women need some of those qualities that are deemed more “masculine” (ambition, assertiveness). I don’t think that these qualities, however, are only masculine or feminine.

And I think that men and women should BOTH have the qualities I talk about on this site, but where I see them fleeting most is in men. We’re losing our true masculinity. So where your husband felt his masculinity came from his control, he was wrong. Being a man is about serving your family, taking care of them, honoring them by who you are and the values you live by.

As a Christian, I see the Bible misread and misused a lot. But I also see so much we can take from it, Christian or not. How it praises women, and their qualities, as well as helps men become better men. It’s a great book to read to learn how to become a real, strong man, and a strong women. As we lose our values, we become weaker. No matter your faith – or lack of faith – without good, strong values you can’t be a good, strong human.

Also, check out “The way of the superior man”, by David Dieda, and Wild at Heart by John Eldridge.

Hope this helped! Glad to have you here.

Appreciate it man! Spread the word!

Focus on being at our best. 99% of the people on this site are men. I’m a man. So I’m going to focus on being the best man I can possibly be. Don’t read too deep into it.

I deadlift, train, write, read, all because I love doing each and every one of those things. They also improve me.

Semantics, we don’t disagree. Enjoy the site, you seem like you fit right in. And deadlifting is like cartoons on a Saturday morning. It doesn’t get much better.

Maximizing potential sounds great. Maybe I just don’t get why that’s so specifically an issue of “manhood.” Why the fixation on gender? Seems like an underlying issue, what are you so afraid of?

From looking at your site, I don’t think we disagree on much outside of all that. It looks like we both think one of the best ways to spend your time is to deadlift. The difference being that I don’t deadlift because I think I live in an emasculated society. I just…you know…like to.