Now this post.

The most telling thing for me, when someone stands up for what they believe in, is their inability to listen. I am not saying we need to change our beliefs or feelings, based on what we hear, but if we aren’t truly willing to listen and re-asses then how are we any better than those we are perceived to be preaching at.

“Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens” Jimi Hendrix

I have strong beliefs in a number of areas and they are truer than true to me and I know that I am not willing to listen to the other sides arguments (these usually involve crimes against people or other such ethical digressions). I will state my position and I will live that position to the death, but I am not able to try and change someone’s position as I am not truly willing to listen to their side. It’s a non-starter.

I go out of my way to live my life, my best life, and stand up for those who can’t or won’t stand up for themselves. While I can get “preachy” at times, if it’s not a topic I am willing to listen to the other side about – I state my case and leave, because at that point it becomes a statement and not a discussion.

On any other topic, that doesn’t hit at my ethical beliefs, I will listen. I always (usually) come to the discussion with an opinion, but I know that if I spend my time defending my position and not learning to expand it – then I become close minded and stop learning.

What about you Chad, through your self reflection have you changed your beliefs based on discussions with people of an opposing view?

Derek

This is such an old value – I remember my grandparents teaching me exactly that. It’s rare today, but glad it’s still highly esteemed.

Thanks for the great words!

Pete

Great point – “when you criticize, don’t stop there. Create.”

Thinking isn’t enough, we must do.

If you, yourself, have that balance and your actions are what you’re telling him to do, you have the grounds to tell him to man up. And, if he’s your close buddy, I think you should tell him.

That sickens me. How can we promote the healthy competition that has made our society successful, and not have scoring? Makes no sense. It’s like we’re trying to rid our society of successful people.