Hey it's Chad here...
... A quick background about where I've come from that pertains to what you want to accomplish and the man you want to become...
In high school I played basketball.
On a skill level I was good. I’d take 1,000 shots a day, arrive to school early to practice and stay late after our team practice was done to practice some more.
The security guards for the school knew me by name and when they saw me coming at 530 in the morning – 3 hours before school started – they’d smile, and open the gym for me. It was a father-son pair of guards from Eastern Europe that loved the game, but loved seeing kids work hard even more.
On a skill level I was good.
I had a good handle, a solid shot, I was quick and athletic and the hours of practice showed. On a confidence level, however, I wasn’t. My skill level didn’t dictate how well I did in games.
I had this problem when I played hockey as well. I could have been a lot better than I actually played in games.
Hard work wasn’t my problem, mindset was.
Even though I didn’t play as well as I should have – not even close – I still played basketball in college for a year before injuring my knee and having to take an entire year off sports. After that year, and with another year of maturity, I decided to not return to basketball and instead take up boxing.
I saw boxing as something I wanted to excel at, for sure, I’ve loved the sport since my old man bought me a Muhammad Ali Sports Illustrated Special when I was 4 years old. Rocky Marciano was my favourite fighter, and then Arturo Gatti. It wasn’t, however, ‘my everything’ like basketball was.
I still trained harder than anyone in my gym. I’d stay late and arrive early and spar as often as I could. When it came to fight time, however, I finally just let loose and had fun and it showed in how I performed.
We talk so much about hard work and its necessity to your success in life, no matter how you define success. If, however, you don’t have a killer’s mindset, an alpha’s brain, a warriors heart, and the confidence to both back it up and attack whatever you’re doing like a man who knows he’s worthy of winning, then you’re not going to get the life you want to lead, nor are you going get the meaning and happiness you crave from said life either.
Where most guys need help is in the mindset category.