We’d like to think that after a long day that our work is done, but we know that can never be true because that’s not what life is about. It’s not a race to a finish line, a hike up a mountain, it’s a long, never-ending race, and our success here on this earth is caused more by resilience and toughness than talent or even blessings, and talent is earned, it’s practiced, it isn’t bestowed.
Never lose that humility. It’s hunger. And it’s hunger that will allow you to grow and accomplish great things in this lifetime. (Read this: Always Be Improving)
The affect is that I do only things that help me, that bring clarity and growth. I work. I do watch TV, but only one program every now and then as decompression at the end of a long day. I read a lot. I work even more. I run and walk and lift.
What I’ve found is improvement. We spend so much time thinking about things that don’t matter, never really thinking about what DOES matter.
Remove the non-essential from your life and open yourself up to living life.
Don’t just speak the truth, demand if from your friends. Be the man that can handle the truth. You’ll be better for it, if you can take criticism and use it to grow and evolve, you’re going to be better than 99% of the humans out there that run from the truth and into the arms of myths that make them feel as though they’re of value, when they give nothing of value to anyone beyond themselves.
Define badassery as it pertains to you. What does being a badass look like? What does a badass do? How does he act? Figure this stuff out, it’s important to what you REALLY want to do with your time and your life.
Then set out to do it. Does this mean that you travel alone? Does it mean that you camp or hike or explore the country you live in, the wilderness that surrounds you?
Be a badass. ‘Tis the way to happiness.
Don’t try and trick women. Don’t sign up for these courses where they show you tactics, how to “close”. A valuable life, even in regards to women, can’t be about notches on the belt, for in the end, there should be only one woman who matters: your wife, and you’re not going to meet a great lady if you’re a scumbag who tries to trick women into opening up to them.
Here’s what you need to do: improve. Become a better man. Grow stronger in body and in spirit. Face your fears in life and you’ll conquer your fear of women. Become a success. Find something that you love to do and become the best at it. Build upon your personality, don’t crush it, quell it, or change it. Release it to the world in all it’s weirdness and glory, and have the balls to live your life as you and not give a rat’s ass about anyone who doesn’t like you.
Become a better man, that’s the way to a happier life and a life where you’ll meet better women. (Read this: Where Dating Gurus Got It Wrong)
What I’ve realized in my own life is that as you get older, wiser, and smarter, your friends become better, but fewer. There are those, though, that don’t realize this. Instead they want more friends because they think that it’s the number that matters, not the quality of the company.
They want to hang out in large groups and make a big to do about everything they do, missing the conversations that can only come with a couple pals, after a long night of drinking, with a coupla cigars and the sun a risin’.
Don’t worry about being popular. Popularity shouldn’t be your goal. A few, quality friendships are far more important than a million followers on a fan page but nobody to back you up when the shit hits the fan.
You’re given a body, healthy or not, it’s yours. You’re given a brain, intelligent or not, it has the capacity to learn. The mere fact that you have these gifts gives credence to the notion that laziness is abusing them, it’s spitting in the face of the Creator. It’s spitting in the face of the men and women who have made your life a possibility.
It’s spitting in the face of the men and women who fought and died for the freedoms you now take for granted. (Read this: Are You Wasting Their Sacrifice?)
Yes, you have the freedom to be a lazy son of a bitch, but that doesn’t make it right.
I’ve fallen into this trap and it’s something I’m removing from my life, this desire for things. They do more to clutter than bring value. Books, those are things worthy of purchasing. Giving your money to a good charity, that’s something worth doing with your dollars. Saving and investing, that’s money well spent.
They’re useless. A car will rust and break down. A watch, no matter how expensive, can only tell time. Have them, but don’t see them as the things that will make you happy.
This is how you develop toughness. Toughness is what allows you to live a great life. (Read this: The Most Important Days to Train)
Act now on your goals, and make them audacious. Even if you fail, you’ll grow and learn, and if you persist, you’ll one day rise and succeed.
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